(I know I come up with strange concepts and titles for my blogs. )
The difference between listening and being heard
I know, you’re gonna be like common Payal, it’s the same thing.
Last night, after a long time I felt heard. * Slow drum roll * I know, I was talking to an old friend and I was telling her all about my escapades.
She just sat, didn’t say anything and she didn’t have to because her presence was enough for me.
Moreover, I have noticed that our generation and nothing can better describe it other than this quote :
“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” —Stephen R. Covey.
Secondly, I’d like to quote Gary Turk, poem ‘Look up from your phones’
I have 422 friends, yet I am lonely.
I speak to all of them everyday, yet none of them really know me. The problem I have sits in the spaces between,
looking into their eyes, or at a name on a screen.I took a step back, and opened my eyes,I looked around, and then realised
that this media we call social, is anything but when we open our computers, and it’s our doors we shut.
When we talk, sometimes people don’t look at you directly and that really is a major part of feeling heard. They say I’m still listening to you while they are texting, and occasionally give you glance to let you know they are still paying attention to your story.
But seriously give people your whole damn attention because it’s a lovely feeling being heard.
Before you leave I want you to think about the last time you actually felt heard?